Adolescence is a period characterized by many changes for children and parents. On the one hand, the parents feel that there is a noticeable change in their son’s behavior, and on the other hand, the son - whether male or female - finds his feelings are making him deal with himself and his surroundings in a different way. He views his personality with interest and arrogance at times and is reluctant to be seen as a small child who may enthusiastically rush toward adult responsibilities and sometimes evade the duties assigned to him. He has a fickle temperament, a white heart, a fun-loving spirit, flexible in the face of love, and disobedient to orders and directives.., Parents should pay great attention to this stage that their children are going through, and exhaust their energy in knowing the nature of dealing with them, and helping them build and develop themselves. Because adolescence is a serious stage in building and developing abilities and talents, here are seven ways to help you deal with them:

First: Understand the nature of the teenager: when you feel that your son - or daughter - who is ten or thirteen years old or older has begun to become sensitive to your directions and to become angry if you treat him on the basis that he is young and does not accept criticism, and he tries to highlight his personality through his opinions and imitates adults in their behavior. Here you have to reconsider the way you deal with him. Because he has entered the stage of adolescence, that is, he has entered the stage of maturity, and the changes in his awareness of himself and what surrounds him have begun to increase, so you should read books about the nature of the teenager, follow programs, and ask doctors and specialists in education and psychology about that and about how to deal with children teenagers.

Second: Be wise in your policy: Some fathers and mothers fall between states of tension and relaxation. They either relax the rope for their teenage son so that he can do whatever he wants without any guidance, accountability, or punishment, or they stress him to the point of persecuting him in every small and large matter and accusing him of any behavior, they question his intentions, and they rebuke him in front of others under the pretext that the teenager must be controlled so that he does not deviate. This excess and negligence is unacceptable, and he must be treated according to a moderate policy. We saturate him with directions and instructions in an educational, and we accept his points of view, at the same time we must be firm in holding him accountable if he fails, and punishing him if he persists.

Third: Deal with his stubbornness using methods of persuasion: The teenager is characterized by stubbornness and tyranny in many cases because he hates criticism and guidance, especially from his parents. Unfortunately, they use the same method in directing him when he was young and this raises his anger and stubbornness, as he is rushing by recklessness sometimes for his negligence from looking at the consequences of matters, so he must be persuaded through logical methods.

Fourth: Be a friend to him: the teenager has a fluctuating mood, but we can make him harmonious with us if we can approach his feelings and gain his heart.

Fifth: Be careful not to destroy trust between you and him: One of the common mistakes in dealing with a teenager is doubting his abilities and intentions, and making him feel that he is not worthy of responsibility, and this destroys trust. Give him trust completely, supporting this trust with verbal affirmations and suggestions through body language, or by saying that he is a strong young man and he can be relied upon and he can overcome crises and problems.

Sixth: Allow him to go through experiences, even if they are dangerous, as long as they do not threaten his life. Let him react to embarrassing situations in a way that expresses his personal point of view. Do not blame him for making mistakes, but rather help him deal with them. To learn from his mistakes and gain experience from his experiences, so that he does not remain in the cycle of blame and frustration.

Seventh: Do not make him refrain from speaking and expressing his opinions: Designate a space for him during the family conversation session, so that he can express his feelings and visions, and correct his opinions in a way through which he realizes the value and moral standards that constitute the correct opinion so that he can learn from you and from others how to reach a correct opinion based on high knowledge and values.