General methods for parents of teens

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The most important thing to remember is that while adolescence is a transitional period, what happens during that period can have a lasting impact on your son or daughter's life as they grow up. Coping with these challenges in a positive way can teach the teen that challenges are not to be feared or resisted. On the other hand, denying fears, feeling insecure, or trying to ignore their existence can teach a teen to give in to the negative or difficult feelings associated with change.

The goal is to build a solid foundation for your teen to build upon when faced with the challenges of adolescence. To do this, try the following methods:

Be present in your teen's life: Perhaps you should be present in his life in a different way, but don't let yourself be pushed aside just because your teen lives a life of his own in a special and different way.

Encourage self-reliance: Involve your teen more in decisions that concern and affect him and let him take charge of daily obligations such as making appointments, paying ATMs, and inquiring about colleges, universities, and jobs.

Appreciate the value of short dialogue: Not every long dialogue will be deep and impactful. Recognize the value of a short conversation that shows that you care about your teen and want to find some common ground.

Let your teen work or volunteer: Part-time jobs or volunteer work can help your teen build work and social skills, organize their time, and be comfortable with the company of others in different areas of life — all of which add to their comfort zone.

Keep your family together: If your teen has a solid foundation at home, he will feel less stressed about changes in his world. Create as much family stability as possible so that your child can anticipate his obligations.

Explain your decisions: Your teen won't be able to make sound decisions if they don't know how. Talk about your decision-making process and tell your teen about some of their own situations.

Curb your criticism of your teen: Shy teens are very sensitive, and being very wary of what they don't feel confident and safe about makes things worse. Try to find other ways to convey your point of view.

Involve your teen in your activities: If you start to involve your teen in your activities, he will learn to feel comfortable around adults who are already part of his comfort zone.

Talk to other parents: If your teenage child does not like to communicate with others, you can learn a lot about this by talking to the parents of his friends and classmates, moreover, you will find someone who supports you in those difficult times.

Finally, remember to be patient and persistent. Your teen is in a state of constant change. In other words, he won't always be nice or soft-spoken. As an adult, you have the advantage of looking back on your past experiences and enjoying maturity. Continue to try to build and maintain a positive relationship with your teen despite the differences. He will learn how to build healthy relationships if he knows that the two of you can work together.