The teenager develops a desire to ease the restrictions around him, to get rid of the authority that surrounds him, to awaken in him a sense of himself and his being, and to seek more independence to be distinguished as a person who has his own privacy, role and opinion.

How do parents deal with this stage? How should a young man and woman deal with it?

It is wrong to deal with this stage as a problem and a complexity, so the parents should deal with it as a natural growth that has its requirements and it is necessary to keep pace with it. By formation, and a notification of his being and his personality, which helps him to crystallize his stage in a correct educational way, and he needs a successful friend, and does not accept the orders, he is familiar with dialogue and consultation, and he is alienated from the categorical and binding opinion, he loves to be taken care of as an existing person, and he is disturbed by his omission and the dissolution of his personality.

The actions of parents help to crystallize the personality of their child in a positive way, and enable them to play their role towards him properly, including:

* Deal with your son as a friend, consult him and try to convince him before you make your decision, and talk to him about the issues that concern him where you consider yourselves concerned with him, provided that you accustom him to accepting your opinion in the end even if it contradicts his desire, as part of his education on obedience and kindness to parents, as well as that you allow the opportunity for his approval On his choices sometimes, even if you do not like them, as long as they are in the circle of discretion and preference, and there is no error or deviation in them.

* Continue your supervision of his activities and relationships, without interfering with its details, and limit your attention to the quality of his companions, without entering into the details of his conversations with them, and leave him the opportunity to tell you about his activities as much as he desires.

* Accustom him to organizing his room, office, and belongings in a way that enhances his independence in arranging his needs so that they are accessible to him in the way he likes, and in the places he likes.

* Encourage him to make the decisions that help him, after you give him the opportunity to present his ideas to you and discuss them with you, and present with him the multiple options, so that he faces more than one possibility before deciding his decision, and give him the opportunity to say his final opinion, then encourage him to do so when he is in the circle of acceptable options you have.

* Let him experiment sometimes to discover for himself what benefits him and what harms him, when the experiment is not costly and does not cause deviation, but is confined between what is appropriate and most appropriate, or between what causes a limited and portable material loss in return for saving it, especially when he is enthusiastic and impulsive, then inform him of your point of view and leave him the choice to take responsibility for his work.

* Do not constantly bring up your experience before him, and do not compare his actions with your actions when you were at his age, for he will confront you according to different times and circumstances.

* Learn successful parenting methods, read about the age stages, and stay abreast of the developments of the times, so that you will be able to deal with your child from the position of the expert, and not from the position of the storehouse of limited experiences or little knowledge. of your advice, and strengthened his interest in consulting you in most of his affairs.

* Work to unify your views as parents, or distribute the roles between you within a well-thought-out plan, so do not quarrel in front of him over everything, and do not increase your private differences at home, as he loses confidence in your ability to help him.